Gaah. Single again. How do I begin?

[Fraxinus]

Hey. I'm a girl who just broke up with my girlfriend. (I'm bi) I really want to date again, but I'm at a loss.

I've only ever dated friends or people I knew who asked me out. How do I even go about finding someone to ask out on a date? I go to high school and I hang out with the few anarchists and artists there.

I'm fairly antisocial. It was a challenge to even make friends. How do I go about asking someone to do something so personal as going out with me?

I prefer girls, but I really just don't know how to attract people who I don't already know everything about.

:confused:

[Imperium]

Just be a whore and people will come to you.

[cstrikehero]

Just be a whore and people will come to you.

... thats one way of looking at it..

well i would say you have to be social. not anti-social. a good way to do that is go out for sports and extracuricular stuff.

and as for attracting girls.. well i dont approve of it but it you decision so w/e .. i have no ideas on that. other than.. ^^ wat he said. lmao but for guys.. i think you should just start flirtin with a guy you might like and hell ask u out if he likes you back... but being a guy, idk how really girls attract guys.. we kinda just like girls i guess..

[TotalAnarchyUK]

and as for attracting girls.. well i dont approve of it but it you decision so w/e

I dont think shes looking for approval.

@op: Just be yourself, if somebody isnt willing to except you as you then the aint worth the time or effort.

[Kasnia]

Hey. I'm a girl who just broke up with my girlfriend. (I'm bi) I really want to date again, but I'm at a loss.

I've only ever dated friends or people I knew who asked me out. How do I even go about finding someone to ask out on a date? I go to high school and I hang out with the few anarchists and artists there.

I'm fairly antisocial. It was a challenge to even make friends. How do I go about asking someone to do something so personal as going out with me?

I prefer girls, but I really just don't know how to attract people who I don't already know everything about.

:confused:

One way is to go out and talk to people, which I know is hard when you're anti-social. If you have a class with someone you think is cute, or see them in the hallway, just slowly get closer to them. Talk to them occasionally, and then every day, then a few times a day, etc etc. and get to know them to see if it's more than a little crush. Another thing that helps is if you have a mutual friend with that person. The three of you could hang out until you get to know the other better.

And if you don't have a crush/not sure who you want to date, then you don't have to. Give it time, find yourself, all that good stuff, until you know who you want to date. Also,doing that little kid stuff where you look at them, and when they look at you, you look away and smile, or just smile when they look at you, little flirty things like that, they work. Lol. At least, I know they do on girls. Never really tried with guys, but a friend of mine has and she said it works too.

[cstrikehero]

I dont think shes looking for approval.



ya.. i know but still just my opinion

[a2thae]

... thats one way of looking at it..

well i would say you have to be social. not anti-social. a good way to do that is go out for sports and extracuricular stuff.

and as for attracting girls.. well i dont approve of it but it you decision so w/e .. i have no ideas on that. other than.. ^^ wat he said. lmao but for guys.. i think you should just start flirtin with a guy you might like and hell ask u out if he likes you back... but being a guy, idk how really girls attract guys.. we kinda just like girls i guess..

You're an idiot. Please refrain from making comments such as you disapprove of their choice, unless you wish to explain why.

ya.. i know but still just my opinion

Your opinion is irrelevant to the topic.

[tmz]

typically i end up with guys i develop a close friendship with. if you find yourself wanting to get to know a girl better just invite her over for a movie or something and take it from there =]

[Chiri]

Wow flame don't counterstrike for having an opinion that disagrees with other people's opinions. That's a little hypocritical isn't it? Fraxinus, I don't really know how to pick up chicks if you yourself are a chick, so I'd listen to Kasnia if I were you. Her advice seems to make more sense than everyone elses here.

All I got to offer is find someone and get to know them. Work hard to get over your shyness, and try to be social. It's tough, but not impossible. After that, just feel people out and see what their interests are, and flirt a little.

[a2thae]

Wow don't counterstrike for having an opinion that disagrees with other people's opinions. T

His opinion is that being lesbian/bi is wrong. Which is of course irrelevant to the discussion at hand.

[Chiri]

He was fairly reasonable about it. He made a small side note of it, saying that he doesn't agree with lesbian/gay relationships. If he went beyond that and tried to spread the opinion or enforce it, I'd say go for it.

He actually acknowledged that it's her decision and he respects that.

You calling him an idiot was far more irrelevant and extreme than anything he said.

[a2thae]

Please refer to rule one specifically, and seven, even though he broke rule 2 to a minor degree.

[freetibet]

Please refer to rule one specifically, and seven, even though he broke rule 2 to a minor degree.

he just said he wasn't going to offer advice on dating girls because he disproves of that. He then gave her advice on attracting guys.

That sounds pretty relevant to me...

and rule 7 is that you are the ultimate judge. Which basically means that cstrike has a opinion you disagree with so you got mad. So you said he broke a rule, the 1 rule that is impossible not to break if someone gets on your bad side.

[a2thae]

he just said he wasn't going to offer advice on dating girls because he disproves of that. He then gave her advice on attracting guys.

That sounds pretty relevant to me...

and rule 7 is that you are the ultimate judge. Which basically means that cstrike has a opinion you disagree with so you got mad. So you said he broke a rule, the 1 rule that is impossible not to break if someone gets on your bad side.

The bold part can be left out of this. I wish to stop arguments before they start. Fuck off. If you are of the opinion girls dating girls isn't right etc, that's fine. Just don't advertise it, keep your mouth shut about it.

If anyone wishes to discuss this further, I'd be happy to, via PM

[Blood]

umm.
Kay Basically trick the victim (who you like) in to thinking they could never get you. A hard to get scenario. Then admit to them you like them sort of, start with giving them hugs and shit then move up from there. Make sure not to play hard to get after you've got them lol.

[Dubstep]

smoke a shit load of weed and go to a local hang out and socialize :D

[deserteagle]

Im kinda in the same boat i just got outta a 2 year engagement.

Maybe you should take up a hobbie of some sort.

Burn some shit, Dig some holes.

What has helped me was surrounding myself with freinds, and if your going to drink, try and stay at someone's house for the night. It fucking sucks being drunk and alone.

Most importantly, make sure your over your old partner before moving onto a new one otherwise its unfair on the new partner.

[kidinabarrel]

be yourself... and dont look for someone to date true love will find you :)

[Clk147]

Yes I have been in that situation and...quite frankly... if she doesnt care enough to see you behind her moms back you should have been cheating on her the whole time.

[pissed_drunk666]

prostitution
hahaha
damn
you should sell your ass in the corner
thatll probly work
if not that.....then your pretty much fucked

[hdeuce]

I suggest not giving a fuck. It has always worked for me. Don't care that she dumped you, don't care that your alone, don't care that your friends aren't fucking you. Just don't care. Sooner or later someone will try to make you care, then BOOM. Fuck them, and then don't care about them either.

[a2thae]

I suggest not giving a fuck. It has always worked for me. Don't care that she dumped you, don't care that your alone, don't care that your friends aren't fucking you. Just don't care.

This much is good advice. Having a "fuck life" attitude can be an attractive thing to girls. Unless you're being emo and saying "fuck life--im gonna go kill myself" type thing going on.

Anyway. I will leave this thread open. whoever necroed this shit, this is your only warning. Also I may be checking in every month or so, and starting next month I'm banning morons, so this is a warning.