what to do after you get a girls number?

[deathlord888]

so basically i can get a girls number fine now i just dont know what to do after lol. i mean maybe about 1 in 25 we actually end up doing something later, any ideas?

[a2thae]

Once you have the information, wait for a few days before you call. Call her up, have a nice conversation, and set up a place to meet.

There are various ways to set up a place to meet..I'm sure you know how to do this. (if not just ask)

Just think about what you wanna say on the phone, try to make it an entertaining conversation, make sure that YOU end the conversation, not her. End it almost a little bit too early and then set up the place to meet, if you're a little uncomfortable keep it nice and short for maybe a half hour, and make it drinking tea or something.

::EDIT:: Remember that phone numbers aren't the same thing as success.

[deathlord888]

once i am there and get going i am fine i got most thinks worked out now, you have helped a ton tho. what are some good ideas for a date type thing? i mean for me it is hard to tell if she knows it is a date or just hanging out as friends, anyway too tell?

[a2thae]

Meh.

For a first date, try the local coffeeshop?

[deathlord888]

that is a really good one tho actually, i will keep it in mind thanks! i think i got my plan working now lol

[a2thae]

Glad to help.

[WeirdD]

dinner & a movie sounds pretty cheesy but its actually pretty good, it depends on what kind of girl youre talking to as well, the last girl i was seeing we pretty much did nothing but smoke weed and chill at her place and talk for hours, we went shopping once and only went to the movies once :S

[LiveWire]

Yea just call her an ask if you wanna hang out.
If you dont know here well maybe ask to hang out in a group with some friends that wont be shithead about it... that way you can get more of an idea about her, or as other people have said, just ask her on a date. girls really like that and as long as you're not a *****g asshole to be around she'll probably enjoy it.

[a2thae]

Yea just call her an ask if you wanna hang out.
If you dont know here well maybe ask to hang out in a group with some friends that wont be shithead about it... that way you can get more of an idea about her, or as other people have said, just ask her on a date. girls really like that and as long as you're not a *****g asshole to be around she'll probably enjoy it.

Personally I wouldn't want her to hang out with me and my friends until I found her interesting enough... First just me and her...then possibly me, her, and whoever.

Not only that, but unless your friends know enough to back off, things can get a little...well...complicated. You don't really want to put any girl in a position of scarcity. Then again you could use that to your advantage if you brought her with friends and hung out, but unless you're good I don't recommend it.

Normally I don't hang out with her for hours on the very first date, can't say I recommend that either.

[ItsAPoorlyKeptSecret]

Yea hanging out in a group is much more easier to get to kno each other to then go out alone with the girl. Cause with a group if ever one of those uncomfortable silences was to come up theres always other people to fill that up with some nonsense. Then after getting to kno each other in a group, if you asked the right questions or paid attention to certain thngs she might say, you should be able to kno what kind of things she'd like to go out and do on your date alone.

[LiveWire]

yup itsy.
Thats pretty much it.
Though of corse its better if your friends are not likely to hit on her or say anything about the fact that you like her... Either of these things would be alittle annoying.

[a2thae]

Yea hanging out in a group is much more easier to get to kno each other to then go out alone with the girl. Cause with a group if ever one of those uncomfortable silences was to come up theres always other people to fill that up with some nonsense. Then after getting to kno each other in a group, if you asked the right questions or paid attention to certain thngs she might say, you should be able to kno what kind of things she'd like to go out and do on your date alone.

Meh if that works for you. Not my style though.

[ItsAPoorlyKeptSecret]

we'll I agree with you a2thae. Only in that my idea was more if its mutual friends that he and her where hanging out with. Cause I agree but didnt think to mention how a monoply of friends of his or hers would only make the one who knows no one feel more alienated and a sort of need to now make a good impression on that many more new people, causing more pressure and less chilling out and enjoying the evening or afternoon.

[WeirdD]

^this man's the pro right here

[a2thae]

If you're referring to itsy, it's a she.

[ItsAPoorlyKeptSecret]

Yea if referring to me, "I aint a playa, I just crush alot"

[WeirdD]

whoops :S
sorry lol
in that case this SHES the pro :)

[ItsAPoorlyKeptSecret]

Just plenty of experience helps, plus I'm also that friend who can be trusted, so all my friends also come to me with their drama or problems and so I get a full spectrum of the things that happen, could happen or should of happened.

[a2thae]

Yeah, she has plenty of experience in getting girls' numbers, and going out on dates. She even shows up her guy friends.

I want to reiterate that I don't think bringing friends on the first date is a good idea. It's unlikely that they have a friend(s) in common unless they have known eachother for a while (which I assume isn't the case here)

[ItsAPoorlyKeptSecret]

for that first part a2thea, I'm a girl so I have a insight view on this.

And then lets say they dont have friends in common then, its good to be in a neutral setting where they can bout feel relaxed and comfortable. So a local dinner or pizza place would be good. Then getting to kno each other thru talk of movies, music, other peoples outrages tales of stupidness(ie. celebrity gossip, or village idiot who everyone heard of setting himself on fire at that party last weekend). These are pretty good topics to talk bout so things dont turn awkward silent. but if it does get silent it doesnt always mean awkwardness unless you play it up in your mind as such, so stay confident sometimes silence is good, just look into each others eye or some bologna. I'm tired.... I'll check back into this tomorrow.

[a2thae]

Another nice little tip is to pick up on her body language, like if a "big" girl walks past, and you see her cringe a little, say something like "What do you think, 800 lbs?"

Some other quick tips:

If you're into the bigger chicks, don't take em out to eat.

Another thing you can talk about is other couples, but you want to stay away from depressing topics. Avoid them.

Make your funny remarks with a carefree detached-like tone.

Send mixed signals, and try not to be predictable, tell her you want to be friends; then kiss her etc.

[oros]

i don't like dating girls over the internet since they react so much to sub communications like body language which you can't show over the phone. just text her when and where to meet and then keep going from there ;)

[a2thae]

Who the fuck said shit about dating over the internet?...dipshit

[deathlord888]

Yeah, she has plenty of experience in getting girls' numbers, and going out on dates. She even shows up her guy friends.

I want to reiterate that I don't think bringing friends on the first date is a good idea. It's unlikely that they have a friend(s) in common unless they have known eachother for a while (which I assume isn't the case here)

i dont have any mutual friends, i just met her a few days ago. lol and my friends are for sure not the type to help me out with this

[charlee]

Ehh phone calls are easy depending on if either of you are interesting to talk too. But that's nothing a couple beers cant fix on your part.

And it all depends on what your trying to get out of said situation, are you trying to get laid? or you trying to start a relationship? you might of already said but im not reading 3 pages i just woke up.

and a few tips from my book.
1. wear(sp?) your favorite outfit.
2. Smile.
3. Act funny but not too corny, a little corny is alright depending on how use it.
4. posture.
5. be kind, making a bit of fun can be flirty depending on how you ise it.
6. Be yourself, but be "cool"

[freetibet]

I think its a good idea to to double up or something on the first date.

Like just today...err yesterday technically I hung out with this girl and some friends and it made the whole thing a LOT better than it would have been with just us 2. Especially since my plans didn't work out and we had to improvise.

How a girl interacts socially is also something I want to see before we really get close. So hanging out with a group lets you see the other side of them.

Usually though my rules are to wait at least 3 days before calling a girl.
Make the first 'date' something social or something short.
End the conversation yourself, since her needing to say goodbye is basically like saying STFU in girl talk :P
and don't text, e-mail, or use messenger a whole lot before meeting in person.

oh and if she says she is 'busy' more than 1 or 2 times. Just fucking forget you ever got her number. I usually just delete the girl from my phone if this happens. Though that has led to awkward situation in the past...

[deathlord888]

ya if they are just busy to often then i do just not try and i let them ask me

[charlee]

pretty much... like when you call and she says shes busy today say "well you got my number, and you know where i live, get at me". make it seem like she ought to get it while the gettin's good if you can.

[[ g h o s t ]]

Sharpen your scalpels, wash your boilersuit, polish boots and whip up a fresh batch of rohypnol for her coffee.

[a2thae]

...only ghost would say that.

[tmz]

call her of course!
wait liek a day then give her a ring and see if she wants to go see a movie or walk around a mall or take a stroll int he park. or bang. she might just want to do that. typically if i get a call it's "hey, wanna fuck?" and i'm usually pretty okay with that.

[a2thae]

If I said, "hey, wanna fuck?" over the phone and got a yes, I would tell the girl she is way too sexually frustrated, and tell her maybe we should wait a lil while before we go somewhere. I might also make a reference to her being a nymph.

Then possibly set up a place to meet "in a while", and if I didn't feel like going, finding someway to flake. If it was too easy, I'd probably end up flaking.

[tmz]

ahahahaha
i usually say "well, let's hang out first."
then i proceed to pretend that sex is not gonna happen on the proposed outting.
no one likes a girl who's rediculously easy. those are ew.

[a2thae]

ahahahaha
i usually say "well, let's hang out first."
then i proceed to pretend that sex is not gonna happen on the proposed outting.
no one likes a girl who's rediculously easy. those are ew.

"Pretend"

hahahaha for some reason I can't laughing at this post, when i read pretend is when it began.

[tmz]

"pretend" is the key word ahahaha XD

[deathlord888]

lol i said my ex was like my dog because she was always horny that didnt work out

[GunMetal]

I thought you were a virgin ?

[a2thae]

lol i said my ex was like my dog because she was always horny that didnt work out

Hmmm that's borderline.

However, If you have enough authority you can get away with saying damn near anything.

[deathlord888]

idk i kinda got away with it, it didnt help anything

[a2thae]

idk i kinda got away with it, it didnt help anything

If she didn't take it as a joke, it's not really getting away with it.

[deathlord888]

lol ya she didnt bitch me out for it but nothing bad happened

[remadon1]

*MAN RULE*
Always wait two days then call her
one seems to anxious, three she'll think you forgot about her.

But yea if she gives you her # she's obviously into you
just stay calm and yea ask her 2 hang out like at the movies with
friends so she feals more comfortable with someone she isn't use to.

[a2thae]

*MAN RULE*
Always wait two days then call her
one seems to anxious, three she'll think you forgot about her.

But yea if she gives you her # she's obviously into you
just stay calm and yea ask her 2 hang out like at the movies with
friends so she feals more comfortable with someone she isn't use to.

That rule sucks. A # is not the same thing as success. A couple gals I've gone out with give out their numbers just so they can say to other girls that they have guys calling them all the time and she tells them to back off etc.

I don't like bringing friends along on dates. But whatever works for you.

[WeirdD]

ya chicks love attention lol

[oros]

That rule sucks. A # is not the same thing as success. A couple gals I've gone out with give out their numbers just so they can say to other girls that they have guys calling them all the time and she tells them to back off etc.

I don't like bringing friends along on dates. But whatever works for you.

That rule rules! :mad:
I'm pretty sure of what i'm doin' and it just shows that you're a noob it you call her right after you've gotten it just for the sake of trying so you got the right number and not a fake one. you're out if you don't play as the rules tells you to ;)

[a2thae]

That rule rules! :mad:
I'm pretty sure of what i'm doin' and it just shows that you're a noob it you call her right after you've gotten it just for the sake of trying so you got the right number and not a fake one. you're out if you don't play as the rules tells you to ;)

Shit man, you don't have any CLUE what you're doing. You seem like you're following a fucking script or something.

Where did I say I call it immediately after getting it? Sure i've done it, I've also waited as long as 2 weeks. It's about the way that you call, your tonality, how you say things, and what you say. Not about the length of time before you call. Dipshit.

Also don't call her a lot, because that is just screaming clingyness, which is a sign of insecurity.

Btw, I "don't play as the rule tells me to" because the rule blows. I do much better than you do, so I'm not "out".