holy fuck she's back!

[Ninja]

i've been with this girl on and off for like 5 years and every year and every time we got together after she dumped me, it was worse. so finally, like 2 weeks ago, I break up with Her for the 2nd time ever.
A week later, she says she wants to stop being friends cuz she can't stand the pain. I acted sad and like i wanted to be her friend, but just let her go and enjoyed the freedom
Then 5 min. ago, she calls me, still drunk from a party the night before, and say, "i miss my best friend". i said i do too, then said i have to hang up and do homework.

I don't want to tell her to leave me alone because I don't want to hurt her, but I also don't entirely want to be her friend anymore.

what do u guys (and especially girls) think?

[MISFlT]

just confront her and be firm

do you want to be my friend or not? also u gotta set some boundaries. because shes gonna keep coming back to you just to have fun its like getting the milk from the cow for free with out owning it... comprende?

[Buddha]

There is no easy answer. Tell her to fuck off, it will be easier for everyone in the longrun.

[Ninja]

MISFIT: 5 years have taught me that no matter how much she tells herself she doesn't need me, she does and it will be very hard for her to ever stop wanting to be my friend. i'm her fucking drug.
i asked for the opinions of mostly girls for a reason. she's the type of person i could milk 'til she killed herself. but the point is, i don't want to take advantage of her.

Buddha: you think? it'd be better for me, but i'm worried that her life would collapse. on the phone she was tellin me how in the last week, she got in a couple big fights with her parents, started dating a guy who sounds like he'll turn abusive eventually, and got so fucked up at a party that she slept at her bf's house w/o even calling home. I don't want to totally fuck her over

[MISFlT]

sounds like ur pussy whipped if u keep coming back to her after u guys break up

[Ninja]

she keeps coming back to me

[Buddha]

She sounds like a real piece of work. I don't really see anybody coming out happy no matter what happens.

[Ninja]

damn... alright thanks

[Phoenix Fire]

Keep her for the sex .

[Ninja]

the emotional-ness kinda ruins it. and anyways, we could only do it in her basement on a dirty carpet...

[Phoenix Fire]

I know where your problems started.

You wouldn't give him any cleavage.

[LiveWire]

sometimes its impossible to stay friends...
I've had a similar sorta thing with a guy i dated. we tried to stay friends but he kept hassling me wanting to hang out, talk etc and as soon as i started being nice to him he asked me out again... grrrrr.

anyway it might be better to just not be friends with her anymore.
or be sorta distant friends.
No offence but it sounds like she's winding you round her little finger...
Like playing around trying to get attention from you.
and that'll get complicated in the long run.

[Phoenix Fire]

I know where your problems started.

You wouldn't give him any cleavage.

[ramalamafafafa]

Do her in the butt, thread starter.

[LiveWire]

all my boyfriends got clevage... even the shitty ones

[Phoenix Fire]

So when do I get some? Babe.

[LiveWire]

... you don't. Clevage hungry moron. :)

[CHEETZzz]

Dude,

1. tell her the truth. if you two can't be honest/open with each other, you can't gain any progress

2. sometimes when the area becomes too infected, you have to sever it... get the metaphor?

[Phoenix Fire]

Cleavage .

[CHEETZzz]

psh i think clearly i care more about cleavage than all of you combined.

[c73]

I like cleavage :)

anyways, as for the girlie, be blunt, just be very blunt. Nuff said.

[Phoenix Fire]

Indeed, and we like your cleavage.